Most of us make New Year’s resolutions; some come to fruition, while others last about 3 or 4 months. I have a few suggestions before you make your resolution for 2018.
First, think before you set yourself up for failure. Don't make a resolution the is unrealistic, i.e., losing 20 pounds by Valentinus's day so you look good for that special someone. Not only is it unhealthy, but almost impossible unless you are going to cut off an extremity or two. Saying you want to lose 5 pounds by Valentine's day is more realistic, and you have a goal that is reasonable and doable.
Second, try not to make your resolution comparing your situation to others. Remember, often when you "compare you despair." Instead of thinking what you don't have, and your friend may have, how about thinking what you do have compared to a homeless person or someone less fortunate. A positive attitude works wonders and can go a long way to make your life happy and easier.
A really good idea for a resolution is to promise yourself to "get a checkup, from the neck up." That doesn't mean you have to make an appointment with a therapist or psychiatrist. [G6] You could check in with your spiritual advisor or a friend, someone that you respect and value their opinion. You may want to change a characteristic you have developed or alter your negative opinion about someone or something. Whoever you choose to confide in, may be able to give you some suggestions that would be invaluable and may help you succeed with your resolution.
Share your resolution with everyone in your circle. That will put a little more pressure on you to try a little harder to achieve your goal. It’s bad enough that you may let yourself down by giving up, but you don’t want to let your friends or family down as well.
Lastly, just remember the two little ditties, “compare may lead to despair” and “a checkup from the neck up” are two guidelines that will serve you well. Good luck with your resolution and Happy New Year.